He was in his late 30s, extremely good-looking, very confident. His wife was very pretty, vivacious and loved him with all her heart. He told me that she was his best friend, they loved being together and their sex life was wonderful. They’d gotten married late, but the two years they’d been together had been great!
The problem was, he hated marriage!
I looked at him with a blank look, and asked him to repeat what he’d just said. He said again that he hated marriage!
He had reached a point of absolute frustration. He wanted his wife to lose a few pounds.
He didn’t say anything for years. But one night, it seemed appropriate (is there such a thing with this topic?) and he’d mentioned it to her.
Now here’s the crazy thing. Not only did she not get mad, she’d agreed with him and told him she lso awanted to lose weight. But, within days she’d forgotten what she’d agreed to, and nothing happened.
He didn’t want to be mean and continue to point it out. He didn’t want to harp at her. But he did end up gently mentioning it a couple of more times. What he couldn’t tell her was just how much those few extra pounds really bothered him. Read the rest of this entry »
Treat her like a racehorse and she’ll never be a nag. Treat her like… but you get the idea. Here are a few of the secrets we deal with in our material. Enjoy!
TAKE A FEW MINUTES, LISTEN TO YOUR WIFE, TALK AND SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE
Why won’t he listen to me?!
This is a complaint we hear from many, many women. So men, what does it mean for a man to listen to his wife?
Well, here are the major complaints that women have.
1. He doesn’t seem to hear what I’m saying.
2. He isn’t paying attention when I’m talking.
3. He interrupts and asks me questions.
4. He isn’t interested, or seems to be bored.
5. He’s impatient and wants me to quit talking.
6. He doesn’t want to talk and share his thoughts with me.
Here’s a great idea on how to begin to save your marriage, or make a great marriage even better.
Many couples face the problem of being separated because one has to go on a business trip or visit family. My wife and I found a great solution for making these trips an opportunity to reassure each other of our love.
Yes, these are four of the most important secrets you can learn, BUT, (and I’m talking to you gentlemen) don’t think that if you have these four you have it all. These are what you need to get up and rolling. Don’t short circuit yourself, pick up the rest of our material.
Some people feel that if they never live with someone outside of marriage, it’s okay to divorce if their expectations aren’t met and then get married to someone else. Why bother to save a marriage if the going gets hard and, heaven forbid, if I can’t have things my own way? If the second marriage is a bummer, then how about a third – and then a fourth and so on? It’s kind of like looking for the Fountain of Youth to search for lasting happiness in that way. It isn’t going to be there.
Certain celebrities are notorious because they’ve been married numerous times – like Elizabeth Taylor, a star of the past who was one of the most beautiful women of her time and played in many notable movies. Did she even try to save any of her marriages, even those through whom she had children? Or, if she tried, did her spouses?
We’ll give her this one: She always married her interests, rather than just living with them. Of course, that sometimes meant she had to snatch them away from their wives. At least that was true in at least one case when she lured singer Eddie Fisher away from his then wife, Debbie Reynolds, another actress.
Taylor either has kept other liaisons secret or she’s changed her thinking where marriage is concerned. She reportedly has been living with a guy for a long time at the time of this writing but now, supposedly, is thinking she’ll take her 8th leap into matrimony.
Then there is the mixing up of marriage and lovers, all at the same time. Larry King, for instance. Still married to Shawn Southwick in his 8th marriage, senior Larry supposedly has been having an affair with his sister-in-law, Shannon Engemann, for the past five years. Read the rest of this entry »
“I love my husband and want to share things with him;
but he turns cold and refuses to listen or talk. Why?”
Consider the following if you are the non-talker and want to save your marriage. (If you are the talker, please feel free to give this to your loved one. No, don’t throw it at him/her… give it with a kiss and say, “I thought you might find this interesting.”)
* Maybe you are angry at someone; or are just angry by nature and that’s your comfort zone…
* Or you grew up in a home where they didn’t talk…
* Or perhaps your mate is an overbearing personality and you feel you can’t get your ideas across…
* Or maybe you just aren’t wired to talk…
* Or you always end up being put down in a discussion so don’t want to risk it anymore…
* Or you are feeling sorry for yourself…
* Or you wanted to marry someone else way back when and it didn’t happen so you
resent the one you are married to now…
* Or you don’t want to accept the responsibility of supplying another’s needs…
* Or you enjoy aggravating or hurting others (you have a mean streak)…
* Or you are punishing your spouse for something…
* Or you don’t want anyone invading your private world. You are selfish…
Mary had grown up slim. However, her figure tended to move outward a bit when it came to her thighs. Still, she was very attractive and looked good in her clothes. After she’d had four children, though, her body began to move outward all over. She liked the fact that it gave her bigger breasts, but the rest was depressing to her. Actually, she was feeling trapped. Her husband was working overtime to deal with additional costs and had little time to help her with the kids.
Her unhappiness began to chip away at their marriage. Although he never mentioned her weight, she felt on the ugly side and took her frustrations out on him. He fought back and when other things began to pound at them, such as huge bills and a job loss, she decided the only way out of the whole mess was to get divorced. She no longer wanted to save the marriage. Read the rest of this entry »
An attendee at one of our seminars wrote for Question/Answer time:
My wife seems angry or unhappy so much of the time that
it’s rubbing off on our kids – even the one who used to be
all sunshine. Nothing they or I do pleases her. Frankly, I
don’t know if I can stand much more of this. I’d like to save
my marriage for the kids’ sake, but I’m wondering.
Being a cranky, touchy person sometimes is a habit, don’t you think? It’s like women or men who always are criticizing their spouses. Most people are what they have been becoming since childhood. They don’t see themselves that way; so they see no need to change. It is miserable to live with, we agree.
