Written by Dr. Vance on 21 July 2010
He had reached a point of absolute frustration. He wanted his wife to lose a few pounds.
He didn’t say anything for years. But one night, it seemed appropriate (is there such a thing with this topic?) and he’d mentioned it to her.
Now here’s the crazy thing. Not only did she not get mad, she’d agreed with him and told him she lso awanted to lose weight. But, within days she’d forgotten what she’d agreed to, and nothing happened.
He didn’t want to be mean and continue to point it out. He didn’t want to harp at her. But he did end up gently mentioning it a couple of more times. What he couldn’t tell her was just how much those few extra pounds really bothered him. Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: communication, compromise, excuses, exercise, marriage, weight
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Written by Margaret Hardisty on 12 February 2010
WHY WON’T HE/SHE TALK?
“I love my husband and want to share things with him;
but he turns cold and refuses to listen or talk. Why?”
Consider the following if you are the non-talker and want to save your marriage. (If you are the talker, please feel free to give this to your loved one. No, don’t throw it at him/her… give it with a kiss and say, “I thought you might find this interesting.”)
* Maybe you are angry at someone; or are just angry by nature and that’s your comfort zone…
* Or you grew up in a home where they didn’t talk…
* Or perhaps your mate is an overbearing personality and you feel you can’t get your ideas across…
* Or maybe you just aren’t wired to talk…
* Or you always end up being put down in a discussion so don’t want to risk it anymore…
* Or you are feeling sorry for yourself…
* Or you wanted to marry someone else way back when and it didn’t happen so you
resent the one you are married to now…
* Or you don’t want to accept the responsibility of supplying another’s needs…
* Or you enjoy aggravating or hurting others (you have a mean streak)…
* Or you are punishing your spouse for something…
* Or you don’t want anyone invading your private world. You are selfish…
Ummmmmmmm – welllllllll – let me say this as nicely as I know how… Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: anger, arguments, emotional needs, excuses, marriage, marriage counseling, marriage counselor, marriage help, marriage problems, Save marriage, Save my marriage, save their marriage, Save Your Marriage, Saving marriage, Saving your marriage, talking
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