TAKE A FEW MINUTES, LISTEN TO YOUR WIFE, TALK AND SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE
Why won’t he listen to me?!
This is a complaint we hear from many, many women. So men, what does it mean for a man to listen to his wife?
Well, here are the major complaints that women have.
1. He doesn’t seem to hear what I’m saying.
2. He isn’t paying attention when I’m talking.
3. He interrupts and asks me questions.
4. He isn’t interested, or seems to be bored.
5. He’s impatient and wants me to quit talking.
6. He doesn’t want to talk and share his thoughts with me.
Here’s a great idea on how to begin to save your marriage, or make a great marriage even better.
Many couples face the problem of being separated because one has to go on a business trip or visit family. My wife and I found a great solution for making these trips an opportunity to reassure each other of our love.
Yes, these are four of the most important secrets you can learn, BUT, (and I’m talking to you gentlemen) don’t think that if you have these four you have it all. These are what you need to get up and rolling. Don’t short circuit yourself, pick up the rest of our material.
“I love my husband and want to share things with him;
but he turns cold and refuses to listen or talk. Why?”
Consider the following if you are the non-talker and want to save your marriage. (If you are the talker, please feel free to give this to your loved one. No, don’t throw it at him/her… give it with a kiss and say, “I thought you might find this interesting.”)
* Maybe you are angry at someone; or are just angry by nature and that’s your comfort zone…
* Or you grew up in a home where they didn’t talk…
* Or perhaps your mate is an overbearing personality and you feel you can’t get your ideas across…
* Or maybe you just aren’t wired to talk…
* Or you always end up being put down in a discussion so don’t want to risk it anymore…
* Or you are feeling sorry for yourself…
* Or you wanted to marry someone else way back when and it didn’t happen so you
resent the one you are married to now…
* Or you don’t want to accept the responsibility of supplying another’s needs…
* Or you enjoy aggravating or hurting others (you have a mean streak)…
* Or you are punishing your spouse for something…
* Or you don’t want anyone invading your private world. You are selfish…
Here is a wife who’s using an old standby weapon. Her husband wrote:
My wife withholds sex as a punishment in order to get her own way.
What can I do about this?
This man wanted to save his marriage. Usually there’s an underlying reason why a woman will start asking for favors, material things or some other substitute in exchange for sex. Very often a demand for some luxury, which is reinforced by her giving or withholding sex, is not about the luxury or the sex. Those are second or third level issues. Most often the foundational issue is a deep desire that is not being met. Read the rest of this entry »
Mary had grown up slim. However, her figure tended to move outward a bit when it came to her thighs. Still, she was very attractive and looked good in her clothes. After she’d had four children, though, her body began to move outward all over. She liked the fact that it gave her bigger breasts, but the rest was depressing to her. Actually, she was feeling trapped. Her husband was working overtime to deal with additional costs and had little time to help her with the kids.
Her unhappiness began to chip away at their marriage. Although he never mentioned her weight, she felt on the ugly side and took her frustrations out on him. He fought back and when other things began to pound at them, such as huge bills and a job loss, she decided the only way out of the whole mess was to get divorced. She no longer wanted to save the marriage. Read the rest of this entry »
An attendee at one of our seminars wrote for Question/Answer time:
My wife seems angry or unhappy so much of the time that
it’s rubbing off on our kids – even the one who used to be
all sunshine. Nothing they or I do pleases her. Frankly, I
don’t know if I can stand much more of this. I’d like to save
my marriage for the kids’ sake, but I’m wondering.
Being a cranky, touchy person sometimes is a habit, don’t you think? It’s like women or men who always are criticizing their spouses. Most people are what they have been becoming since childhood. They don’t see themselves that way; so they see no need to change. It is miserable to live with, we agree.
Lance Armstrong won the Tour de France so many times, despite the bitterness of the French press that tried to discredit him time and again, that it astonishes us. He rose from cancer victim to cancer conqueror to cycling victor. He was determined. At times he fell behind other cyclists in different stages of the races. Reportedly, falling behind was on purpose so he could conserve his strength for more difficult stages. Other times, it was because someone, perhaps a sprinter, put on a burst of speed and outdid him. Whatever, he kept himself from being discouraged, figured out how he could have done better, and charged forth again with victory in mind.
Nevertheless, champion though he was on the bicycle, he was a dud when it came to marriage and relationships. Read the rest of this entry »
If you want to believe what Hollywood has been shoving down people’s throats for decades now, you’ll buy into the idea that sex is the bottom line of life. It’s the ultimate, according to them; the end result of everything that makes existence worthwhile. The only thing that competes with it, in Hollywood’s twisted view, is violence.
Since sex is King (and Queen), true lovemaking has been lost. What we see now, in most movies where any type of romance is exhibited, is a couple slamming together with wide open mouths for what is deemed a kiss. Their hands are tearing at each other’s clothes and as they gasp their way through moans and groans. Read the rest of this entry »
