Written by Dr. Vance on 21 July 2010
He had reached a point of absolute frustration. He wanted his wife to lose a few pounds.
He didn’t say anything for years. But one night, it seemed appropriate (is there such a thing with this topic?) and he’d mentioned it to her.
Now here’s the crazy thing. Not only did she not get mad, she’d agreed with him and told him she lso awanted to lose weight. But, within days she’d forgotten what she’d agreed to, and nothing happened.
He didn’t want to be mean and continue to point it out. He didn’t want to harp at her. But he did end up gently mentioning it a couple of more times. What he couldn’t tell her was just how much those few extra pounds really bothered him. Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: communication, compromise, excuses, exercise, marriage, weight
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Written by Margaret Hardisty on 12 February 2010
MANIPULATION AND SEX
Here is a wife who’s using an old standby weapon. Her husband wrote:
My wife withholds sex as a punishment in order to get her own way.
What can I do about this?
This man wanted to save his marriage. Usually there’s an underlying reason why a woman will start asking for favors, material things or some other substitute in exchange for sex. Very often a demand for some luxury, which is reinforced by her giving or withholding sex, is not about the luxury or the sex. Those are second or third level issues. Most often the foundational issue is a deep desire that is not being met. Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: anger, communication, compromise, emotional needs, making love, manipulation, marriage counseling, marriage counselor, marriage help, marriage problems, romance, Save marriage, Save my marriage, save their marriage, Save Your Marriage, Saving marriage, Saving your marriage, sex
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