He had reached a point of absolute frustration. He wanted his wife to lose a few pounds.
He didn’t say anything for years. But one night, it seemed appropriate (is there such a thing with this topic?) and he’d mentioned it to her.
Now here’s the crazy thing. Not only did she not get mad, she’d agreed with him and told him she lso awanted to lose weight. But, within days she’d forgotten what she’d agreed to, and nothing happened.
He didn’t want to be mean and continue to point it out. He didn’t want to harp at her. But he did end up gently mentioning it a couple of more times. What he couldn’t tell her was just how much those few extra pounds really bothered him. Read the rest of this entry »
Treat her like a racehorse and she’ll never be a nag. Treat her like… but you get the idea. Here are a few of the secrets we deal with in our material. Enjoy!
TAKE A FEW MINUTES, LISTEN TO YOUR WIFE, TALK AND SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE
Why won’t he listen to me?!
This is a complaint we hear from many, many women. So men, what does it mean for a man to listen to his wife?
Well, here are the major complaints that women have.
1. He doesn’t seem to hear what I’m saying.
2. He isn’t paying attention when I’m talking.
3. He interrupts and asks me questions.
4. He isn’t interested, or seems to be bored.
5. He’s impatient and wants me to quit talking.
6. He doesn’t want to talk and share his thoughts with me.
Here’s a great idea on how to begin to save your marriage, or make a great marriage even better.
Many couples face the problem of being separated because one has to go on a business trip or visit family. My wife and I found a great solution for making these trips an opportunity to reassure each other of our love.
Yes, these are four of the most important secrets you can learn, BUT, (and I’m talking to you gentlemen) don’t think that if you have these four you have it all. These are what you need to get up and rolling. Don’t short circuit yourself, pick up the rest of our material.
Here is a wife who’s using an old standby weapon. Her husband wrote:
My wife withholds sex as a punishment in order to get her own way.
What can I do about this?
This man wanted to save his marriage. Usually there’s an underlying reason why a woman will start asking for favors, material things or some other substitute in exchange for sex. Very often a demand for some luxury, which is reinforced by her giving or withholding sex, is not about the luxury or the sex. Those are second or third level issues. Most often the foundational issue is a deep desire that is not being met. Read the rest of this entry »
An attendee at one of our seminars wrote for Question/Answer time:
My wife seems angry or unhappy so much of the time that
it’s rubbing off on our kids – even the one who used to be
all sunshine. Nothing they or I do pleases her. Frankly, I
don’t know if I can stand much more of this. I’d like to save
my marriage for the kids’ sake, but I’m wondering.
Being a cranky, touchy person sometimes is a habit, don’t you think? It’s like women or men who always are criticizing their spouses. Most people are what they have been becoming since childhood. They don’t see themselves that way; so they see no need to change. It is miserable to live with, we agree.
I have on my desk a flyer advertising a gift book signing at a major book chain by author Kate Gosselin. She was telling us all how to do it with regard to the twins and sextuplets she and husband, Jon, parent…or used to parent. Jon and Kate Gosselin made headlines for some time since then regarding the infamous breakup of their marriage and their reality show, “Jon & Kate Plus 8.” They’ve disgraced themselves and undoubtedly caused incredible trauma to their many children, not only with their private spats but their public ones, as well. Read the rest of this entry »
This came from a lady in one of our seminar audiences:
If you constantly are receiving little compliments from your mate,
doesn’t it turn into more of a game than a true communication, causing
mistrust: never knowing if your partner really means what he is saying?<
What is “true communication?” Is it this? “You are saying nice things. Therefore, I must be suspicious because I have learned not to trust people. You couldn’t possibly be sincere.” The lady who wrote the question above possibly had been disillusioned by insincere people in her past. Or her husband cheated on her. Or she couldn’t get out of herself enough to really accept and love her husband fully or accept his love.
Possibly she would prefer her husband to say it like this: “I’ll say what I want when I want to, and if I have to put myself out to say what I don’t want to say, I am playing a game. Besides, when I do try, you don’t appreciate it, so I won’t say anything nice from now on.” Read the rest of this entry »
