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Written by Margaret Hardisty on 12 February 2010
WHY WON’T HE/SHE TALK?
“I love my husband and want to share things with him;
but he turns cold and refuses to listen or talk. Why?”
Consider the following if you are the non-talker and want to save your marriage. (If you are the talker, please feel free to give this to your loved one. No, don’t throw it at him/her… give it with a kiss and say, “I thought you might find this interesting.”)
* Maybe you are angry at someone; or are just angry by nature and that’s your comfort zone…
* Or you grew up in a home where they didn’t talk…
* Or perhaps your mate is an overbearing personality and you feel you can’t get your ideas across…
* Or maybe you just aren’t wired to talk…
* Or you always end up being put down in a discussion so don’t want to risk it anymore…
* Or you are feeling sorry for yourself…
* Or you wanted to marry someone else way back when and it didn’t happen so you
resent the one you are married to now…
* Or you don’t want to accept the responsibility of supplying another’s needs…
* Or you enjoy aggravating or hurting others (you have a mean streak)…
* Or you are punishing your spouse for something…
* Or you don’t want anyone invading your private world. You are selfish…
Ummmmmmmm – welllllllll – let me say this as nicely as I know how… Read the rest of this entry »
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Written by Margaret Hardisty on 12 February 2010
MANIPULATION AND SEX
Here is a wife who’s using an old standby weapon. Her husband wrote:
My wife withholds sex as a punishment in order to get her own way.
What can I do about this?
This man wanted to save his marriage. Usually there’s an underlying reason why a woman will start asking for favors, material things or some other substitute in exchange for sex. Very often a demand for some luxury, which is reinforced by her giving or withholding sex, is not about the luxury or the sex. Those are second or third level issues. Most often the foundational issue is a deep desire that is not being met. Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: anger, communication, compromise, emotional needs, making love, manipulation, marriage counseling, marriage counselor, marriage help, marriage problems, romance, Save marriage, Save my marriage, save their marriage, Save Your Marriage, Saving marriage, Saving your marriage, sex
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Written by Margaret Hardisty on 12 February 2010
ANGRY, GLOOMY WIFE
An attendee at one of our seminars wrote for Question/Answer time:
My wife seems angry or unhappy so much of the time that
it’s rubbing off on our kids – even the one who used to be
all sunshine. Nothing they or I do pleases her. Frankly, I
don’t know if I can stand much more of this. I’d like to save
my marriage for the kids’ sake, but I’m wondering.
Being a cranky, touchy person sometimes is a habit, don’t you think? It’s like women or men who always are criticizing their spouses. Most people are what they have been becoming since childhood. They don’t see themselves that way; so they see no need to change. It is miserable to live with, we agree.
However, Mrs. or Mr. Cranky Pants can change. Read the rest of this entry »
Tags: anger, arguments, communication, emotional needs, health, marriage, marriage counseling, marriage counselor, marriage help, marriage problems, Save marriage, Save my marriage, save their marriage, Save Your Marriage, Saving marriage, Saving your marriage
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Written by Margaret Hardisty on 12 February 2010
SETTLING DIFFERENCES IN YOUR MARRIAGE
I have on my desk a flyer advertising a gift book signing at a major book chain by author Kate Gosselin. She was telling us all how to do it with regard to the twins and sextuplets she and husband, Jon, parent…or used to parent. Jon and Kate Gosselin made headlines for some time since then regarding the infamous breakup of their marriage and their reality show, “Jon & Kate Plus 8.” They’ve disgraced themselves and undoubtedly caused incredible trauma to their many children, not only with their private spats but their public ones, as well. Read the rest of this entry »
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