Written by Margaret Hardisty on 31 July 2010
THAT’S FOR THE BIRDS
Yes, and some of what’s good for the birds is good for people, too. The miracles we see everyday in nature, if we take the time to look at them, are not by accident. God designed them that way – like the birds who know when to take flight for warmer climes and when to go back to home base. What’s more they’ll travel thousands of miles to the very same place as the year before in order to prepare for the current crop of hatchlings
I was disappointed this year because the glorious yellow and orange orioles that usually come to sip at our feeders, didn’t show. Probably it’s because, instead of keeping the backyard inviting for wildlife, we’ve been so concerned about the divorce rate that George, Vance, Julie and I dove into getting our material out to a wider audience so anyone can access it. After all, the concepts in it have saved hundreds of thousands of marriages; and here, we were taking a break! No more. Our material is needed – desperately. We have used the basis of these concepts in our seminars and marriage counseling of hurting husbands and wives…and yes, Singles, too. Read the rest of this entry »
Written by Margaret Hardisty on 30 July 2010
CONTROLLING WOMEN
Genetically, we’re dealing with controlling personalities, not just women. Men can be very controlling, too. In either case, many marriages, where one controls the other, end in divorce. It’s so prevalent that I’ve addressed the problem in detail both in my books to men and my books to women.
The fact is, though, that controlling women are much more l likely to lose out than controlling men. Why? Because it’s a man’s world, basically, and that has given rise to the feminist movement, some of which I can’t stomach but that speaks to women’s distress.
To get a proper perspective, we have to realize that controlling people very often are natural leaders. It’s when they don’t lead in the right way that they run into trouble. Read the rest of this entry »
Written by Margaret Hardisty on 28 July 2010
THANKS. YOU ARE A BLESSING!
The incredibly wonderful, complimentary and cool comments that many of you have sent to us in response to our blogs are a joy. Thank you. We can’t answer all of them, or we wouldn’t have time left to keep writing more, as well as turning out new, needed books.
But they confirm our beliefs that most people want to add to the positive and shine light throughout the world, rather than contribute to the negative and aid the purveyors of darkness that frighten, discourage and add to the marriage problems that mess up lives and break hearts.
You’ve found us on Google. You’ve discovered us on dating sites, other marriage sites, men’s sites, women’s sites and even places that we probably would rather not be.
For example, regarding the latter, one correspondent, who was very complimentary of our blog and who encouraged us to keep up the good work, runs a porn site! Our showing up on a porn site is enough either to make us laugh or cry because we’re well acquainted through our counseling with the devastating effects porn has, eventually, on marriages and relationships. Read the rest of this entry »
Written by Margaret Hardisty on 26 July 2010
MOM, POP, AND YOUR MARRIAGE PROBLEMS
If you treat your mother and father with respect, honor them and lovingly deal with them, you likely treat – or will treat – your spouse the same way. If that’s the case, you can conquer a lot of your marriage problems. Sound silly? It isn’t, because the feelings you have for your parents – and your in-law parents – will affect how you feel and react to your husband or wife.
It has been our experience that a man or woman who: Read the rest of this entry »
Written by Dr. Vance on 23 July 2010
He was in his late 30s, extremely good-looking, very confident. His wife was very pretty, vivacious and loved him with all her heart. He told me that she was his best friend, they loved being together and their sex life was wonderful. They’d gotten married late, but the two years they’d been together had been great!
The problem was, he hated marriage!
I looked at him with a blank look, and asked him to repeat what he’d just said. He said again that he hated marriage!
Why? Read the rest of this entry »
Written by Margaret Hardisty on 22 July 2010
THE LITTLE WHITE SPIDER and YOU
If I could show you a picture of the little white arachnid that touched my life, I would. Since I like to have our house full of flowers, and my husband purposely has grown a large variety from which I can choose, I set up several bouquets – in the kitchen, the living room, the dining room, and when I’m not too pushed for time, smaller ones in the bathrooms and bedrooms
This morning, two of the bouquets looked a lot like a wife who seldom hears, “I love you,” from her husband, if ever. They were trying to hold on to their beauty, but had lost the battle. I had to scoop out the dying loveliness, clean the bowls and decide what I’d arrange in their place. Read the rest of this entry »
Written by Dr. Vance on 21 July 2010
He had reached a point of absolute frustration. He wanted his wife to lose a few pounds.
He didn’t say anything for years. But one night, it seemed appropriate (is there such a thing with this topic?) and he’d mentioned it to her.
Now here’s the crazy thing. Not only did she not get mad, she’d agreed with him and told him she lso awanted to lose weight. But, within days she’d forgotten what she’d agreed to, and nothing happened.
He didn’t want to be mean and continue to point it out. He didn’t want to harp at her. But he did end up gently mentioning it a couple of more times. What he couldn’t tell her was just how much those few extra pounds really bothered him. Read the rest of this entry »
Written by Margaret Hardisty on 20 July 2010
GET YOUR TONGUE MOVING
Two sisters, clients of George’s (my husband), lived in the same house but didn’t speak for thirty years! Was it because one was wired to talk, the other was not and so the talker gave in to the non-talker? After all, it’s a bit difficult to speak to anyone who’s no more a converser than a wall.
Or perhaps one of them had been hurt emotionally too often and decided it was safer to live in a bubble and pretend that the other didn’t exist.
We received this note in one of our marriage seminars during a Question/Answer session.
“I love my husband and want to share things with him;
but he turns cold and refuses to listen or talk. Why?”
There are many possibilities here; and since the burden of changing things is on the non-talker, I’m going to direct the following remarks to him or her. Consider one or more of the following and be frank and honest if any of them apply to you… Read the rest of this entry »
Written by Margaret Hardisty on 19 July 2010
PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE, YOUR CHILDREN, YOUR FREEDOMS
Isn’t it interesting that…
* Every major religion is welcomed with open arms in the United States – except Christianity – which is under attack as never before. Here’s a brief summary of an incident that took place in May as reported by the Alliance Defense Fund and OneNewsNow: Read the rest of this entry »
Written by Margaret Hardisty on 18 July 2010
WE THE PEOPLE– Part Two
Prejudice against someone else because of his/her race, ethnicity, occupation, or any of a number of other things pollutes the heart. There’s a reverse position, as well. We can be so determined that an issue or someone is so right-on that we become incensed if anyone tries to prove otherwise.
Because Adolph Hitler was a strong leader and a decisive orator, he garnered many German followers. When it was rumored that he was also very dangerous, they looked the other way. Millions perished in furnaces. Total death toll – all sources under Hitler – 42 million.
Stalin brainwashed the populace about the benefits of Socialism/ Communism. At least 20 million Russians died in the resultant purge.
In China, it is estimated that between 44.5 to 70 million men, women and children were slaughtered during the Cultural Revolution when Mao Zedong and his Communist party took over.
We have our modern day Hitlers, Stalins and Mao’s. If we aren’t open to something other than what we’ve made up our minds to believe, we could be led down a thorny path into a deadly swamp and won’t know how we got there. Read the rest of this entry »
